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You Should Not Be Angry At Your Child

By: Michael Green

I remember reading a question asked by a teenager, it was in one of Yahoo forums. She was asking: Does my mother still love me?". They had a fight several hours before. ...

This article is for you, the parents.

Anger can be a paralyzing and weakening circumstance.But, it can be a scaring and humiliating experience for your child if you're taking your anger out on them. Physical and verbal violence of a child can have lasting and fatal implications, so it's crucial that as a parent, you do whatever necessary to get your anger in check.

Take a time out!
It's important to 'pick your battles' when parenting. Accidents and annoyances don't deserve the energy and agony it takes to get angry. But, naughtiness such as a child hurting themselves, others or belongings demand a strong, quick and appropriate reaction from you.

You will most likely have to remind to yourself time and again that the small stuff isn't worth getting worked up over. Remind yourself also that you have the power over your anger; don't let your anger control you. Put yourself in time out, count to ten, walk away, do whatever you have to in order to get an understand on yourself before addressing the condition if you feed your anger coming on strongly.

Name-calling hurts – especially when the person doing it is a parent, a teacher, or a coach. Shouting and screaming might have been the way you were brought up, and you might believe it worked for you, so why wouldn't it work for your kids? But, did it? Remember how it made you feel. You almost certainly felt belittled, devalued, and unimportant.
Of course you don't want your own kids to feed that way. It may cause emotional disturbance that can result in long-term hurt.

Amongst the rest, verbal violence can undermine your child's self-esteem, cause harm to his ability to trust and form relationships, and chip away at his academic and social skills . Name-calling, swearing, insulting, threatening to bodily harm, blaming or using sarcasm are all forms of verbal violence.

What are the signs that a child is suffering from verbal violence? They may have a very un constructive self-image. They may commit acts that are self-destructive, such as cutting, hitting or scratching themselves, as well other impulsive and dangerous activities. They may show physical violence, be delinquent in school, or display interpersonal difficulties They may punch other kids, frequently fight with classmates at school, or be unkind to animals. They may also show delays in their social, physical, academic or emotional development.

Last researches suggest that kids who put up with from verbal violence are most probably to become victims of violence later in life, become abusive themselves, or become hopeless and self-destructive later in life.

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